Twenty minutes ago I was so steaming mad at my hubby. Sometimes, honestly all too often, it's so easy to get caught up in the things about him that drive me crazy. It was just one of those times when I found myself thinking of the thing that made me mad in the first place. You know where that led, right? Yup, before I knew it I was composing a very thorough list, in my head, thank goodness, of everything about him that makes me nuts. I was in rare form. One thing led to another, the list got longer and longer, I got more righteous by the minute.
Thankfully, something, made me stop. I sat back and thought about what I was doing. Why is it so easy for me to see his perceived faults and so easy for me to ignore mine? Trust me, the list of things I do wrong is exceedingly long. I truly have no business worrying about anyone else's faults.
I felt my blood pressure lowering. The anger seeping away. Good sense returning.
I even called to apologize for being so mad. He was surprised, to him it wasn't a big deal, but trust me, that's only because he couldn't read my mind. It felt good though to make the phone call. It felt good to calm down. It felt good to remember to work on me, not to get caught up in acting like I'm so perfect and he's just a bundle of wrong.
Why do I do that? Does anyone else do that?
Ironically, the kids wanted to watch a movie. As Julianna's still sick and there's no school today, why not? Know what they picked? Jonah. You know, the movie about compassion and mercy?
I'm listening God. Sometimes it takes me a while, but I am listening.
I have 1 husband and 4 kids, 28, 20, 11 and 9...I'll be doing the mom thing forever, hence 4evermom.
11 comments:
Wow...what a great post. Way to step back and put things into perspective. I need to do this more. It's in amazing what a little phone call will do, too? God works in awesome ways!
Happy Friday!
No you are not the only one to go off the deep end and start adding up all the things that seem to be wrong with you spouse.
These are also the times we eventually step back and count or blessings and the biggest blessing is, that what goes on in our head doesn't automaticlly have to come out the mouth:)
Like you post.
Your transparency is a blessing. You are wise to address the heart issue right away, because we all know that when an angry heart manifests itself in actions, its so much more difficult to apologize! We have all been there... truly.
It is easy to get upset with our spouses and make that mental list of everything they do that's pissed us off.
I tend to fly off the handle ALL the time.
You are one amazing lady to take that step back. And to call him and apologize. Wow ... just wow.
Hope things are going well there today - and J is feeling better than yesterday! Have a good weekend.
So easy to do, but I love that you stepped back and breathed your good sense back. I also love that you called to apologize, even when he didn't realize just how mad you were. Cleansing.
Well said, thank you for sharing.
Am reading your profile and have my mouth agape at the age difference in your children. What terrific stories you must have to tell.
Love your blog banner too with the stick people.
This is a really great place to hang out!
I absolutely do this. Loved your retrospective look at this kind of incident.
Ugh! Been there, done that, way too many times. I think, I hope, I'm slowly learning to take a step back and realize where I'm headed with my thoughts and that I need to turn my attention back to my own actions. Great post.
It is not just you! I do it all the time and not just with my husband. Sometimes we just dont think about what we are doing.
I understand EXACTLY how this stinkin' thinkin' gets started. I know those thoughts aren't coming from God. I am married to the sweetest and most loving man. So what if he clinks his spoon noisily against his cereal bowl? Or cracks open peanuts and the sound of his chewing sounds like he's eating glass? When I feel that way, I try to picture my life without him. Then I realize that I'd miss those sounds. Good for you for calling him. I have to watch that I don't take my husband for granted. He is a precious gift and my life partner. Thanks for sharing those thoughts.
Does anyone else do that? Are you kidding??? I am doing it right now, and believe me my list can get mighty big. I was considering putting it all on paper as to not lose one tiny complaint, but instead came out to mindlessly read a little... good timing with a great post.
I am still mad though ;-)
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