Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are…
Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect Tomorrow.
One day I shall dig my nails into the earth,
or bury my face in my pillow,
or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky
and want, more than all the world, your return.
- Mary Jean Iron

Friday, October 7, 2011

*Sigh* ...Again

This was supposed to have been a very big weekend for Jacob...for Julianna and I too.  And Mark.

This was supposed to have been Jacob's very last Webelos campout.  Who knows if he'll go on to Boy Scouts?  He might, but then again he might not.  We're not there yet, he's yet to visit any troops.  Time will tell.

But this weekend?  This he was very excited about...as in would not have missed it for anything.

Well, almost anything.

Mark's sick.  Very sick.

So, no camping trip.

I offered to take him, but he said no.  He knew Julianna and I had big plans, though of course we're canceling those as well.  He felt someone should be here with Mark, for company, and just to be sure he's all right.  He said it's not the same if I take him.

I understood, but I still feel really sad.

Mark's a great dad.  Mark's a great person.  Mark works really, really hard.

Mark has incredibly bad luck often sometimes.  Lots of things get canceled, for extreme headaches, for back problems, for bouts with the flu.  He's not faking or exaggerating, or being man-sick, he's truly sick and hurt and whatever each and every time, but still.  It happens a lot.  I try to tell myself it's worse for him, but it's also hard on all of us. (Gosh, does that make me sound as awful as I think it does?)  I try to remind myself to be thankful that it's nothing major, that he doesn't have a serious illness or condition, and I do thank God for that, I just wish these things didn't happen over and over again.

Bottom line, my precious boy's missing his last campout that he looked so forward to and there's nothing I can do to make it better.

*sigh*

(Can I just say that right or wrong, it made me really sad that none of the other parents or leaders offered to let him come along with them...I don't think there's a reason, I don't think he's a problem.  Maybe it didn't occur to them, but it would have meant the world to one 11 year old boy.)

6 comments:

Mum-me said...

That's really sad that someone from the group didn't offer to take Jacob with him. I know there are probably those who just didn't think of it, but then again there would have been those who were aware of the situation.

Still, it's sad too that everyone's plans have to change for one member of the family. I know you can't help getting sick or having a backache or headache, but I do think that men just don't have that inbuilt sense of sacrifice that women often DO. It must be one of those things that comes with childbirth and mothering.

InTheFastLane said...

I understand your frustration....We have the normal man-colds around here, which are frustrating, but we also have all the times that when he gets something, it is going to be way worse than when anyone else gets something....and it isn't overplaying it. He has been better lately (Except the last two weeks)...but I don't know if you remember his kidney stone saga...jeesh.

But, you are right, count your blessings. But, I think it does sting that no one else offered to help out. :(

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

Ohhh... I'm sorry. That stinks. Their childhoods are so short as it is...

Emilia said...

I wish I'd known! He totally could have come with us! When he wasn't there, I figured it was preemptive since he'd gotten sick at the last few camp outs. :(

Laurie said...

AS the most sickly peron in out family, I assure it bothers us too. My frshman and 6th grader have never missed a day of shcool sick and their dad is never sick. I routinely test postivei for strep and assure you it hurts my heart when I miss the girls activities. Iget down about it and then realize that it's better fo rme not ot be there feeling horrible and being all negative.But they are so sweet to me (all 3). I understand as mother how it hurts to see your child hurting and not be able to fix it. it just flat out hurts. BUt we must carry on enjoy what times we do have together. Thank you for being so honest. And rest assured you're not the only one who goes through this!

Kat said...

Awww. That's sad. I feel badly for everyone. I know it must have killed your hubby to have to say he couldn't go. And Jacob sounds like he is trying to be such a good sport about it all. But honestly, that's life. And kids (unfortunately) need to know that life isn't always perfect. Sucky, but true. Crap happens.
Still, it's rotten. Sorry. :(

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